Thursday, 21 September 2017

Parental guidance On How To Stop Child Abuse

Jesus Christ placed a high demand on childrearing, and one of the contemporary issues that must sadden His heart is the sexual abuse on children.

It is an unpleasant subject, but one that poses a serious threat; statistically, one out of three girls and one out of five boys will suffer some form of sexual abuse by age eighteen.

It is dangerous to think it cannot happen in your family or church because it happens to all kinds of people.

Surprisingly, children in Christian homes because of fear and shame often do not tell anybody when they have been abused.

Therefore you must be on the alert for symptoms of abuse in children under your care.

Physical symptoms include unexplained redness, swelling, bruises, infection, or bleeding.

Other symptoms usually include some form of marked changes in behavior that is uncharacteristic of the child, such as reverting to bedwetting or thumbsucking, showing fear of a person or place, or having nightmares or sleep disorder.

Any single physical or behavioral symptom can be caused by something other than abuse, but each should still be checked out.

When clusters of these symptoms occur, they are definite warning signs.

When you have valid reasons to suspect that your child has been abused, file a police report.
Register the urge to investigate the case privately.

Many christians cringe at the thought of causing someone to go to jail, and this may be especially true if the perpetrator is a friend or family member.

Most abused children are victimized by someone they know or trust.

However, you must remember that God established civil government to punish wrongdoing, See Romans. 13:4.

Furthermore, many child abusers are habitual offenders, and those who are not prosecuted remain free to abuse other children.

Abused children should be given a medical examination.

Children sometimes sustain physical damage or contract diseases through sexual abuse, and early detection and treatment are very important.

Parents will also wonder whether an abused child needs professional counselling or therapy. While needs vary greatly from child to child, it is a good idea to schedule at least one evaluative session with a trained counselor.

Some children will need no more than this, while others may need multiple sessions to help them work through fear, anger, and mistrust; those who have suffered repeated abuse, have been victims of incest, exhibit serious behavioral symptoms, or will be participating in a trial fit into this category.

The most important factor in child's recovery is the response by his or her parents.

Tell your child that you are sorry that something bad happened and that you will do all you can to prevent further harm.

You should remain calm in the child's presence because hysteria can convey the message that he or she has done something wrong.

Excessive anger expressed toward the perpetrator can make a child feel guilty for getting someone else in trouble.

Most of all, abused children need to be assured that they have done nothing wrong.

You can take steps to prevent sexual abuse from happening.

Start teaching your children early about safety issues.

At age two or three, instruct them about the private zones of the body "the parts that a bathing suit covers" and that others should not be allowed to touch these parts.

As your children grow older, warn them that sexual abuse can occur in many settings, and that they need to say NO, get away, and tell an adult at, the first sign of danger.

Parents should realize that no child can fully protect himself or herself.

It is the nature of abuse that a more powerful person victimizes those who are helpless.

Therefore, parents must take the lead:  Make sure  you know your baby-sitter, drop in unexpectedly at your day-care center.

Know where your children are playing in your neighbourhood, talk  with your children regularly about how their day went
Make sure your church has a protective policies in its children ministry.

They only sure way of preventing the sexual abuse of children is to deny would -be perpetrators access to your children.

Jesus use harsh language in referring to those who would jeopardize the well being of children (Mark 9:42).

On the other hand, intimated that when we care for these little lambs of the flock, we are engaged in His work.


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